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I’m Kahea, and I’m so glad you’re here. Before we get into all the who-I-am’s and what-I-do’s, I’m dying to know:

What’s one tiny thing can you do right now that gets you a step closer to a life that feels more YOU?

That question right there is my Love Language. My North Star. It’s my way of getting to the heart of my core belief as a coach, woman and human: You are worthy of a life you love.

The thing is, too many of us are living lives we think we should instead of lives I know we can . We’re struggling with burnout and feeling stretched too thin, restlessness and disconnection from our lives and our passions, and a larger society that has us spending our time and energy searching for worthiness in all the wrong places. We’re stuck in jobs we hate that don’t fulfill us, by identities and obligations that have begun to feel narrow and suffocating, and by habits and behaviors that keep us from showing up for ourselves and our people in ways that actually feel good .

We are quietly (and often guiltily) coming to terms with the fact that, while we may not know exactly what we want out of our lives…this isn’t it. Let’s take a breath and say that again: This. Isn’t. It.

As a coach, I help women sort through those seasons of not-knowing. This isn’t a 5-step self-help plan for anything; if you're looking for easy answers or a guru, I am 100% not that girl. Instead, these are wildly honest conversations that suspend both judgement and bullshit, practical and sustainable strategies that make sense for Real Life (because quitting your job and traveling the world for six months is great, and also: rent), and some accountability and sisterhood to get us through those rough patches.

That’s how we reconnect with who we are, bridge the divide between the lives we have and the lives we want, and walk back home to ourselves.

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why i do it

When my quarterlife crisis hit, I was fresh out of law school with rent and student loans to pay, no self-confidence left to speak of, and the growing [terrifying] realization that I didn’t want to be a lawyer. I didn’t have any idea what I wanted to do, I just knew that despite reaching this goal I’d been working towards for 24 years, I was feeling lost, like I’d veered off path somewhere along the way. But every non-lawyer option I considered only seemed to jeopardize the stable, responsible life (and image) I thought I needed. I felt stuck, trapped by what I expected of myself and by what I thought everyone else expected of me. So I cried before work every morning, numbed myself every night with TV and isolation, and regularly wondered where the hell I went so wrong with everything.

It took a year for me to understand on a deeper level that not only did things need to change, they actually could. And with the support of family, friends, and my own life coach, they did. I quit my job for one that made more sense for the life I wanted to live (and figured out what that life actually looked like); gave myself permission to backtrack, change my mind and fail; and finally came to terms with the fact that: I am worthy of not hating my life. In fact, I’m worthy of loving it.


These days, when I’m not doing my best to cultivate a sisterhood of badass, supportive women who are in love with every inch of their lives, you’ll find me trying to convince my husband that we should pack our kid up and move to the country where we can live slow and grow things. Until he caves, we’re splitting our time between Northern California (where he’s from) and Hawai’i (where I’m from), and trying to get to the ocean and mountains as much as humanly possible.


I received training and certification as a life coach from the Courageous Living Coach Certification program, which is rooted in a holistic philosophy grounded in supporting clients where they’re at.

I have a Bachelor’s Degree in an awesome field no one’s ever heard of that involves looking deeply at personal and group identity construction in post-conflict and colonized spaces. I also received my JD with a focus on human rights + federal Indian law.

Just for fun…

I read an awful lot of sexy romance novels.

My favorite podcasts are Real Talk Radio and Nobody Talks About This.


A note from Kahea:


As a Kanaka Maoli woman, I am grateful to the Ohlone people for hosting my family and I in their territories — currently known as the San Francisco Bay Area. Out of respect and gratitude, a portion of my coaching income each month goes towards my Shu’umi Land Tax.

Furthermore, recognizing the historical legacies of colonization, dispossession and exploitation experienced by Indigenous peoples, I am honored to be able to offer a scholarship for a discounted coaching package every January and July to a frontline woman involved in protecting our cultures, lands, communities and ways of life.

If interested, please send an email to hello@kaheapacheco.com. Inquiries must be received 2 months prior to the desired start date.